[tmtranscripts] Abraham 5-28-01

[ellen]

MEETING WITH ABRAHAM -- PURE COMMUNICATION
MAY 28, 2001
WOODS CROSS GROUP

I am ABRAHAM. Greetings. I am grateful once again to be here with you, my
friends. I appreciate how you accept me for what I am. You allow me my truth
and make it very comfortable for me to be direct. I love the purity of our
friendship. We have no hidden agendas. We play no mindal games. We seek not
to steal from one another, but to give freely, yes.

As humans grow they develop various techniques to acquiring what they want.
These techniques are clouded with falsities and have lost the purity that
spiritual brothers and sisters can attain with one another. Last week we
discussed assumptions that individuals may conclude if we are not clear in
our communication. In today's world of wheeling and dealing, manipulation
and seeking ego gratification, we have lost the art of communication.

As small children we learned that simply asking for what we desired did not
work. We learned various techniques to talk others into what we desired. Of
course, a wise parent cannot grant their child's every wish because some of
those wishes are harmful, nonetheless, the child pads the communication with
impurities. The beauty of simple truth is practically lost.

Many mortals have learned that to request fulfillment of certain needs
requires mindal games, such as empty flattery, aloof attitudes, phoniness.
We have lost the courage to state the plain and simple truth. The truth that
of course is our own. We expect others to be able to relate with what we are
saying and fulfill our needs.

A wife who is angry with her husband may not come right out and state her
problems. Instead she may choose to be silent or be short with her words, or
deliberately do things the husband does not like. The simple art of
communication would enable her to state her difficulty with her husband
honestly without padding or game playing.

Those who have been married many years have learned to use this
communication manipulation, because they feel they are no longer really
heard or taken seriously. In a manner of speaking, mortals train one another
into using this impure method of communicating. Regarding the couple we are
speaking of, the husband knows and recognizes this communication
manipulation, and he has his own impure methods he uses back on the wife. No
understanding is reached. Resentments are built. The plain and simple truth
is lost. The compassion is lost. There are only defenses.

This week I ask you to look at the levels of purity in your communication.
Attempt not to resort to game playing or manipulating to be heard. Instead,
truthfully and with kindness, state what you are really feeling and
thinking. Do this as if you were not only discussing the difficulty with the
person, but also their Indwelling Father-Fragment. You would be surprised
how many individuals will appreciate the simple honesty and your daringness
to be truthful.

Communicate your feelings--for example: "I am hurt when you do this," or "I
feel without value when you do that." Do not blurt out your truth as if to
accuse, no. For example: "You always speak so negatively about me." Instead
say this, "I feel hurt because it seems that you speak so negatively about
me. I feel without value. I hurt to be without value in your eyes." The
plain, pure, simple, honest feeling truth is opening, expanding, creating
healing.

It is unpopular in this day and age to expose any vulnerability. When you do
expose this softer side of yourself you speak to people's basic sense of
compassion and make them feel comfortable to be open and honest. You
literally open their attention and they are better able to really hear what
you are saying. To create this ideal Brotherhood on Urantia the game
playing, energy manipulating needs to cease and pure feeling exposing needs
to increase. Communication is an art. To gaze into your fellows eyes and
feel a divine brotherly or sisterly connection is connection to the divine.

"Where two or more are gathered there am I also," said Jesus. Communicating
should be a feeding of energy, a nurturing of souls, not manipulation to
have your way, or to change another person, no. When you observe small
children at play they seem to be so honest, so in the moment, so happy to be
with one another. When children come in from play, it is not long before
they are requesting to go back out again. Friendship is a natural divine
energy source and a buffer from the brutality of mortal living.

This week, my friends, remember the pure communication of a small child. Be
tactfully honest and appeal to your fellows Adjusters as well as their
hearts and minds. Seek to feed and nurture--not to rob to gain self-esteem
or ego fulfillment, yes. I cannot answer questions this week , but I will be
able to next week. Know of my appreciation for you each and the purity of
our friendship. I thank you. My love goes with you. Until next week, shalom.