[tmtranscripts] Arcadia, July 20, 2003

[Larry Whelan]

Arcadia Teaching Mission Group

Monday, July 20, 8:00 P.M.
Arcadia, California

Prayer

Henry Z: Father thank you for your presence.  Thank you for the 
opportunities you have given us to learn and to grow.  Thank you for being 
there when we call upon you.  Thanks for your trust and your 
friendship.  Thanks for your patience, watching us grow as human 
beings.  Thank you especially for your guidance, though it is invariably 
difficult for us to always follow that guidance, we do look forward to the 
little voice that points the way.  Thank you for allowing us to make our 
own mistakes and to grow by these mistakes.  Thank you for creating us in 
this tremendous world of opportunity to serve you.

JarEl:  TR, George.  Good evening, it is I, your teacher, JarEl.  Welcome 
to those who come here on a regular basis and welcome to those who are here 
for the first time and also those that have not been here for awhile.  It 
is good to be back and it is good to see all of you once again.  I would 
like to take this opportunity to expand on certain themes that have been 
discussed here tonight.  One of these themes is the obvious imperfect 
nature of man and the countless mistakes that one makes during his or her 
lifetime.  What I would like to express to you, is that it is OK to make 
mistakes.  These are all experiences in your lives that may or may not make 
you stronger.  It all depends on how you look at it.  It all depends on 
what you take from it, what lesson you learn.  One must be receptive and 
open to understand the message that is coming through.  Many times these 
lessons are overlooked and yet again the experience is repeated, again and 
again.  Either that, or it is projected in some other fashion, but in each 
experience there is a lesson to learn.

That is the same in each relationship that you experience.  Every person in 
your life, whether it be a brief experience or a long term relationship has 
a purpose and a meaning for you.  Nothing is by accident.  It is entirely 
up to you to derive the meaning from that relationship.  If you do not 
learn it from that person, you will be given another opportunity to learn 
the same lesson.  Many times you may be disappointed with other 
people.  Everyone seems to have high expectations from their friends or 
family, but these expectations only lead you to fall, for when people do 
not meet your expectations, you become disappointed or depressed.  I am not 
saying to lower your expectations, but at least give it leeway.  At least 
give it a chance, so you can say it is OK if someone does not reach your 
expectations, "I will forgive them".  If you say that enough you will do 
away with much of your unhappiness and bitterness.

These lessons you have to learn on your own and they must come within 
you.  For within is where all the answers lay and from within is where you 
project your goodness and kindness.  These lessons must be learned from 
your experiences in life, from your interactions in different 
relations.  It is not something to be learned by yourself, for it is in the 
friction of the dynamics that you mold your character and in turn help 
others.

If you are kindhearted and good you should be set atop a hill so you may 
inspire others.  So others may see your light and want to be like you.  If 
you desire to be kindhearted, you must learn to forgive, you must not judge 
others and you must not have so many high expectations of people.  The one 
rule that you must learn is that no one on this earth is perfect, that you 
are all learning, growing and evolving as human beings.  One day, yes, you 
shall be perfect, but not now, not here.  There is so much imperfection on 
your world that you cannot put yourself high on any horse and call yourself 
perfect, for then you blunder.  You must forgive your brothers and sisters 
for being imperfect, just as you are imperfect yourself, so others should 
forgive you as well.  Would you not like others to forgive you when you 
make a mistake?  I know that you have made many mistakes in your life and I 
know many have forgiven you.  That is why you must forgive others when they 
make mistakes.  To learn to forgive is to learn to find the road to 
perfection.

Henry Z: At what point do we allow people to be human?  At what point do we 
allow this humanness to take over?  I want to hold people to a certain 
standard but I have to forgive them because they are human and 
imperfect.  Does that make any sense, my question?  Do I need to rephrase it?

JarEl:  TR, George.  No Henry, I understand.  I would suggest you respect 
that level of understanding that each individual is at.  That you respect 
the level of spirituality each individual is at as well.  Yes, you can have 
aspirations for them but don't expect them to reach those aspirations on 
your time-table.  They have their own time-table; they have their own pace 
in life.  One day or another they will reach that point.  God is infinitely 
patient to allow this.  Ask yourself this question, are you patient enough?

Henry Z:  I do ask myself that question.  God demands that we aspire to his 
common denominator and his standard.  At what level do we bring that 
in?  Should we actually hold a standard?  At what point do we allow people 
to be human?  Is it still OK to hold people to a standard?

JarEl:  TR, George.  My dear friend Henry, I understand your frustration 
with the current state of society and the current norms of your education 
system.  All I can say to you my friend is that you continue to plant your 
seeds and the fruit shall come.  I understand your frustration of trying to 
change things for the better; trying to change society.   There is much 
that we can do, yes, but do not be frustrated so much that you give up, 
that is not the answer.  Continue to plant your seeds.

Henry Z:  Thank you JarEl.

JarEl: TR, George.  Are there any other questions?

Stella:  I am kind of puzzled with your statement Henry of allowing people 
to be human.  What do you mean allowing people to be human?  Do you mean to 
allow them to be brutal or one who is making mistakes.

Henry Z:   Yes, how many mistakes do we allow before we begin to correct 
them?  It is OK that they make mistakes, it is OK that they are human and 
blunder, but do we have to sit and just watch it fall to pieces in front of 
our faces?

JarEl:  TR, George.  That is why you have laws in your land.  That is why 
you have a justice system.  I speak on a personal level my friend.  I speak 
on a friendship level.  Ultimately that is where it all is, between one 
person and another.  You can have society judge a man but can you judge a 
man personally?

Henry Z.  That is a good point JarEl.  That is a very good point.  I like 
what you said about just keep planting the seeds - they will spout.  I 
agree with that.  Is that a little clearer Stella?

Stella:  Not really.

Henry Z.   Let me approach it this way.  I had to come to understand that 
it is OK to be human and to aspire to be God-like.  Because when we aspire 
to be God-like, God is not punishing us because we are not like him 
yet.  It is OK that we make mistakes and that we come to him gradually and 
slowly.  I had an awareness where I actually began to understand the divine 
and human implications of Jesus' life.  In that Jesus purposely did not 
blunder, he purposely held a life in which he showed us that it was 
possible, during his time even, to live an exemplary human life.  We have 
the Bible, we have hearsay and we have The Urantia Book, but even in those 
three you don't find any blunders at all in Jesus' life, there are no 
blunders, no mistakes, he was able to hold each situation in its correct 
proportion to his and their understanding on what they were able to do.  I 
was blown away by that.   I am challenged to live by that.

Stella:  Don't you think that he also had a very experienced Fragment of God?

Henry Z:  Yes, but the Fragment of God was not making the decisions for 
him, he was.

Stella:  Yes, but are there not urgings to go a certain way?

Henry Z:  Yes, we have that, we have urgings to go a certain way.

Stella:  Maybe Jesus' Thought-Adjuster was so powerful, and because Jesus' 
mind was so highly-developed anyway, his Thought-Adjuster had an easy time 
influencing his great mind.

Henry Z:  He probably did, I would venture to say that is correct but 
coming back to what I was trying to ask JarEl about the humanness, I began 
to see that it was OK to be human and try to be divine.  So many times 
people want to make it black and white.  The laws are made "don't cross 
this line".  It is either right or left; or, wrong or right; or black or 
white.  It is not like that, life is not like that.  This line is a huge 
gray matter which we all stumble on.  We all stumble on this line, that is 
what I mean by humanness; this stumbling field which is our planet, this 
big giant stumbling field.  You know, but we still have the presence of God 
within us and we are still aspiring and it is all OK.

JarEl:  TR, George.  I would like to interject here and expand on your 
point Henry.  For this has corrupted many human beings.  They have made 
mistakes and felt ashamed and they have been held hostage by this shame and 
gone deeper into corruption.  It is when you make mistakes and admit that 
it is OK that you made such a mistake that it frees you from the shame and 
does not allow you to fall deeper into a downward spiral.  Accept your 
mistakes, don't dwell on them and don't feel ashamed by them.

Henry Z:  This is good news JarEl, this is news that the whole world needs 
because so many people live in guilt and shame.  It tremendously 
compromises their being to function as sons and daughters of God.  They 
think that God has written them off and scratched their name out of the 
Book of Life.

JarEl:  TR, George.  Are there any other questions?

Stella:  When you were in human life, were the possibilities of mistakes on 
your planet as great as they are here?

JarEl:  TR, George.  The possibilities are always present, just because we 
were closer to Light and Life does not mean that I did not make many 
mistakes, in fact I did.  I was taught on my world that mistakes were to be 
endured and overcome and that one must learn from them.  I made many 
mistakes in my youth but I matured into a man by learning from these 
mistakes and I became closer to God.  God does not frown upon you because 
you make mistakes.  It is when you feel ashamed and have regret that you 
separate yourself from God.  You can learn true knowledge from your 
mistakes, it is only through acceptance and forgiveness that you will come 
to understand why such a thing happened in the first place.  Always give 
yourself the opportunity to reflect upon your mistakes and to ponder them 
and to examine and to come up with some sort of meaning.  I promise you 
that you will find the answers if you look for them.  Do not write off your 
mistakes as blunders, examine them but do not dwell on them.  Acknowledge 
them but don't regret them.  That is all for tonight, until next time.

All:  Thank you JarEl.

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