[tmtranscripts] Michael Lightline 4.16.15

[Jerry Lane]

Michael on April 16th,
2015.

 

Michael – T/R-
JL

 

(Why is fear
associated with loving someone?) 

(Cynical
notions of trading love)   

(Beaming
love and good wishes)

(Encountering
yourself in others)

(Love,
anger, and hatred)

(It takes
courage and faith)  

(Giving of
oneself—a true sign of maturity)

(To forgive
and forget?)   

(Keep
staying open)

(A sense of
proportion—love V.S. hatred)  

(Sharing the
secrets of your soul)

 

Dear Michael
and Mother Spirit, we treasure these times we have together.   They help us keep your presence in our
awareness. We can feel you here with us and then, through you, the whole
spiritual community that you are connected with.  So are we, with you. It helps us be aware of
your presence as the Spirit of Truth, the guiding light within us that keeps us
oriented in the right way. Mother Spirit, we treasure your Holy Spirit as life
itself.   

 

Tonight I
have a specific question from one of your really and truly faithful. She
wonders why there is so much fear associated with love. From her standpoint
there is so much more energy in love, rather than in hatred. The whole question
is: why is there so much fear associated with love since the rewards of it--the
spiritual blessings of love--are so great? So could you please answer her
question? Thank you, amen.

 

Michael:
Good evening everyone, my dear and faithful children. Mother Spirit and I thank
you for being here with us this way. And we invite you to talk with us right in
your own mind. Soon you will be able to detect our presence, if you can’t
already. We are more or less the background of your consciousness itself,
within which you think and reason. You have Mother Spirit boosting your
intuition and all your knowledge and understanding; and also, with respect to
what I have been invited to talk on tonight, she augments your whole notion of
what courage is. Courage is your raw ability to extend yourself into the
unknown, especially when you have been kind-of thumped on the nose before in
your attempts to touch another, and be touched.

 

(Why is fear
associated with loving someone?) 

 

So let’s get
right to it, as to why so many people find so much fear associated with love.
It’s why are there not more people who are capable of loving, for fear is
certainly the major reason. And let’s call true love the spiritual generosity
of extending yourself out there, sometimes with an awfully naked feeling for all
the clothes you are wearing. You’re extending yourself out there to touch
another and enjoy God’s primary quality of sharing. You’re offering to share
your life with another, just as he shares all of his with us. Why is there so
much fear in someone’s intention to share? 


 

Let’s start
when folks are children and have a generosity of spirit to join in with their
playmates. This can be a genuine feeling of love, maybe even falling in love
with the other little girl or boy in the sandbox. But then they get rejected
with an undeniable thump right on their tender little emotional nose.  Someone else, for their own ego glorification
at a young age, enjoys rejecting them.   

 

If it’s you,
suddenly someone is emotionally standing above you with this awful ability you
have just given them by your very reaching out to them. You have put them in
this position of power, and they’re delighting in making you feel powerless by
putting you down. This is a real experience, and becomes part of your
soul.   

 

Then think
of all the youngsters who, from a very early age, have never known love given
to them. Perhaps their parents were just intrinsically mean, or stubborn, or
cruel. Maybe children were unwelcome in the first place, and represent to their
parents nothing but a bothersome burden they would rather not have. Sometimes
too the parents haven’t enough inner knowledge or understanding of the
situation to realize what they are doing to a smaller person they are
responsible for. Even with some knowledge of what they are doing, they may not
have the inner discipline to deny themselves lording it over a smaller, weaker
person.

 

(Cynical
notions of trading love)   

 

Instead of
having an irreplaceable connection with a generously loving mother and a father,
some children have no example of it. Often then they get into copying a cynical
way of thinking that love is only a matter of trading.  I will give someone else just so much
attention and affection--on a very short loan--so I can make sure I get at
least that much back.

 

This
cynicism can go so deep it is largely unconscious. Folks can go their entire
lives with this notion of love being simply emotional trading, so much for so
much. Unfortunately, and tragically, because this is not really love, they
almost universally end up feeling cheated, that they gave more than they got. Think
of all the hundreds of pop-songs that have come and gone with this same theme
in mind of being cheated on, being made a fool of, and disrespected. Yet these
are genuine human experiences.   

 

With so much
fear of rejection and being deliberately put down, or with a deep cynicism that
creeps in, this is where courage is necessary. It’s the courage to start again,
fresh in your own mind with the understanding that these previous experiences
of yours, real as they were, need to be put in the past. They need to be encapsulated
in understanding and forgiveness, if you will, so you are not constantly being
tied down by the past. 

 

It’s like
trying to look into the future, or even be in the present, by looking in a rear
view mirror. Think of how some folks are constantly relating what is happening
to them now, in terms of something that happened in the past. They really have
no sense of the eternal now they
actually exist in, full of possibility, because it takes courage to set aside all
their mere re-actions and, with a real inner strength, a real sense of
spiritual generosity, just beam love.

 

(Beaming
love and good wishes)

 

Mother
Spirit and I have often challenged and teased you with the notion of going
through your life beaming love and good will towards everyone—even, as I once taught
as a human being myself--even to those who spitefully regard you. These are the
small people who are trying to feel larger by making you smaller than they. 

 

But to be
able to set all of them aside and, as you say, let the dead bury the dead? Let
the past be past, through your meditation and your actively projecting love,
striving to be here-and-now in this eternal present that holds all future possibility?


 

This takes
courage and faith, initially, to realize there is such a thing as love. There is
a spiritual generosity that doesn’t look to merely trade at all. It is a gift
you give away. You’re strong enough to keep offering it, irrespective—and this
is the hard part--irrespective of what comes back! You offer it even walking
down a busy sidewalk in a large city and seeing all those folks coming your way.
It’s meeting their eyes and accepting their feedback, for in these instantaneous
exchanges you can receive and exchange the most wonderful, wonderful touch.

 

(Encountering
yourself in others)

 

As we have
taught several times before, you tend to encounter yourself in others. If you
are down in the dumps, gloomy and feeling spiteful, or mean, or angry,
yourself, then--on a totally unconscious level, just in everybody’s peripheral
vision--you tend to encounter yourself. If you are cynical at heart, your
cynicism will be self-validating. Here come
all these mean people glaring at me. Without realizing it, you’re actually initiating
this kind of response. 

 

But if you’re
strong and beaming love and good will towards everyone, even total strangers,
you’ll find--again, in an instantaneous peripheral realm—they’ll be looking to catch
your eye and exchange their own precious acknowledgment of you, perhaps share a
little mutual delight.

 

It’s that
look in another’s eyes that can make your whole day. It lets you know there is
instantaneous feedback, if you have the courage and the open-mindedness to
accept it. You can know where you are by reflection, because it is so unconscious
and instantaneous.    

 

Yet the fear
of love can also have a similar origin like this in the unconscious way

people are
treated by unloving folks. They haven’t known their own selves by way of
someone else’s loving reflection. They haven’t experienced it from their
parents or brothers and sisters.

 

(Love,
anger, and hatred)

 

About the
relationship of love to hate: Mother Spirit and I see hate as a clinging on to
anger, itself an impulse of self-defense. Anger can be an immediate self
defense mechanism designed to protect you physically, mentally, or even spiritually
in terms of value. Anger can arise immediately like this.  If it finds an object in someone’s
deliberately trying to hurt you in some way, this is a very natural action. 

 

But when it
becomes hatred, then this is someone’s over-re-action. This is their own focused
design to obliterate the object of their anger. Where this goes so terribly
wrong is that, past the instantaneous moment when their anger arouses enough
energy for them to defend themselves, their cynical orientation towards other
folks wants to hang onto and enjoy this arousing of energy, this sudden flush.
On a very subtle level people begin to enjoy all the power of intimidation that
anger and hatred gives them.   

 

Yet a little
reflection tells most folks that they rightfully have expressions like “eat
your own liver.” In other words, someone maintaining and enjoying the feeling
of hatred and anger is what actually ends up stunting their life and killing
them.

 

These destructive
energies designed purely for self-defense, if they are held onto and enjoyed, do
fulfill their purpose of wiping out others. The emotions become a general
attitude and orientation. Contact with other folks is wiped out because the
person has become a hateful one.

 

It’s a
self-fulfilling attitude. Becoming a hateful person, with a cynical notion of
other folks, means they’re not realizing—they don’t even want to realize—just how
sensitive, intelligent, and understanding folks generally are. Being hateful,
they don’t realize why everybody is avoiding them. Other folks are, seemingly,
becoming hateful themselves, just to keep them away.

 

(It takes
courage and faith)  

 

This is
where it takes some courage and faith to break out of this attitude and literally
extend by trying to project love towards everyone they see. This way other
individuals can start to emerge—as individuals!--for them--out of their own
amorphous background of stereotypes and prejudices. Perhaps, for some, for the
first time in their life they can start relating to real individuals, and not
just to some automatic, knee-jerk, categorizing and hateful notions of their
own. This is a way out, but it requires a person become an individual
themselves, and not remain a mere stereotype of hatred.    

 

The vicious
circle can be broken, sometimes by a super-loving person coming along and
giving this hateful person a big hug in spite of themselves. Someone else’s
spiritual generosity can turn the trick and give this poor, cynical person
their first experience of genuine love. I know all the laughter and delight that
can come to this poor soul. Tease them out of their cynicism because they’ll
now have a loving person in their soul. They’ll have actually shared something.

 

(Giving of
oneself—a true sign of maturity)

 

This giving
is the true sign of maturity. As Mother Spirit once taught, those who cannot
love, who cannot suspend themselves in order to give themselves over to a
relationship, are living in an un-transformed, immature world. They have not yet
experienced how loving another is a sharing with another, soul to soul. One of
your great songs says, “Bobbie shared the secrets of my soul.” Without this,
folks haven’t actually experienced how the whole world changes once they are
sharing love with another. As Mother Spirit further said, “You have expressions
such as ‘Love is blind.’ But is it? Or is it only that our lovers are
momentarily bedazzled? Their whole world has just changed because they are both
standing in it side by side with another.”  


 

So look at
the question from the position of the little baby, and then the child, growing
up without love, or being horribly mistreated. Think of how their poor little
spirit, just in trying to survive, becomes cynical and develops a calloused
shell. They tell themselves that everybody would be like them if they could be.
Sadly, in the meantime, life goes on all around them.   

 

For each of
you: if you recognize this attitude in another, muster your own courage to
reach out and give them a hug and a smile. Lovingly tease them out of
themselves. Offer yourself. This is what it takes, person to person. This is
where love exists, and flowers, and blossoms, and comes alive.

 

Now if you
have any questions or comments, we always enjoy doing those.

 

Student #1:
Thank you very much for that lesson. I’m facing a situation where literally the
person is dying of hate and anger towards me. I do pray for him, for his
comfort and to know he is loved. But I’m not allowed near him. Is this a case
where you could try to talk Father Fragment-to-Father Fragment?

 

Michael: Yes,
my dear. This is truly where, within yourself, you can beam love toward
someone. If you have been terribly abused--physically, mentally, or even
spiritually and soulfully--this is your courage to forgive and beam your good
wishes toward them. With genuine love this is irrespective of whether or not
they can accept this. You are doing your share. You are offering yourself this
way.

 

(To forgive
and forget?)   

 

You have the
expression “To forgive and forget,” but you needn’t forget anything. Whatever
has been a genuine experience of yours, and has spiritual value, is now part of
your soul. Rather, I think that expression means to forgive so thoroughly it’s
as if it never happened--in an affective sense. But it can still be part of your
memory. Especially remember that you have forgiven! Don’t let that slip by. 

 

This is
having the courage to offer an opening, a sharing; but then be wise. Even as
you are offering, do so with your eyes wide open. Continue to assess the
reality of the relationship, however it goes. This way you are not loving
blindly. You are not casting your pearls before swine, as I once used that
expression, nor are you forcing your love on another for selfish reasons.

 

Stay real. Stay
with the reality of what keeps occurring. It requires you to continue beaming
your love at someone, but then too, accepting them as they are. Is this something
you would be interested in?

 

Student #1:
Oh yes, totally. It’s my daughter’s father. He’s in the process of passing, and
she’s been by his side; yet his hatred of me is literally eating him alive. I
just want a peaceful passing for him, and for him to know that his daughter
does love him. I want the best for both of them. It’s really hard on my
daughter.

 

(Keep
staying open)

 

Michael: Well,
hateful people are truly pitiful; and I don’t mean that in any condescending
way. Whatever you do, stay open to the real effect that comes next. Otherwise
projecting or giving love can actually be a kind of putdown if your overt
expression of it actually makes them miserable—hopefully not your design. They
may be so wrapped up in their own cynicism that even a genuine expression of
love on your part is seen as a way of putting them down.    

 

Then that is
their reality. It’s a good part of love to recognize, as you say, “where people
are at”--what their attitude is. An overt expression of love on your part—say,
going up to someone and hanging onto them in spite of themselves--can be the most
unloving thing if it cannot be received as it is meant.

 

So you have
to stay open. Stay away from any notion that you know what is best for someone
else. Just keep loving them.

 

Student #1:
Understood. Thank you so much.

 

Michael: You
are welcome, my dear. You are blessed to see the situation as clearly as you
do. Be in my peace.

 

Well, my
dear ones, if there are no more questions or comments this evening, I want to
reiterate what Mother Spirit and I have mentioned a number of times.  From our point of view, being in everyone and
having a sense of the World Soul on Urantia here, the amount of love in the
world, the amount of good sharing between folks, far overwhelms the anger, even
when built up to be an active part of hatred—the very opposite of sharing.

 

(A sense of
proportion—love V.S. hatred)  

 

Hatred is
the desire of annihilation, even to the point of physically killing someone, or
perhaps mentally torturing someone over years, indulging in a perverted and
obscene self-indulgence. In the spiritual realm it’s denying the value of
another human being, especially in terms of sexism or racism; or now, religion
and culture, past any need for self-protection. Anger may flare up, but should
die away when there is no good cause for it.  


 

We see the
amount of love so totally overwhelming the amount of hatred. It’s the sheer amount
of sharing, and concern, care and support, the taking care of one another. It’s
knowing the way the world transforms, right down to the last little molecule,
when people are able to love--in all their thousand and one ways. Is a changed
world possible? You have to ask our lovers. It’s their generosity of caring for
one another that so totally outweighs all the anger and hatred.

 

(Sharing the
secrets of your soul)

 

Ironically,
it takes a loving soul to see this; to know the reality of love; to know
another, and then, hopefully, wonderfully, another; and then another and
another. It’s to have your soul filled with all these others, all these “little
walking infinities” as we like to call you. It’s to touch another, and share,
for all the unfathomable uniqueness of each one of you. As you say in that
sweet song of yours, you “share the secrets of your souls.” This is definition
enough of what’s divine, is it not?    

 

Good evening,
my dear ones. Mother Spirit and I love you very much. We invite you to be still
enough--settle down out of your busy lives long enough--to feel our love. Feel
our presence within you and, if you are so inclined, say hello.   

 

Be in my
Peace. Good Evening.

 

 

 

 



Jerry Lane 		 	   		  
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