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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoBodyText><STRONG><FONT color=#0000ff
size=5>Conversations with Monjoronson, #27 – The Golden Rule – Jan. 26,
2011</FONT></STRONG></P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>Teacher:<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><B>Monjoronson</B></P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>Topics:</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">The
higher levels of the Golden Rule<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">Why
we struggle to interpret the Golden Rule’s higher values<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN
style="COLOR: purple">Meditation allows guidance from the Divine presence
within<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">The
Golden Rule must be applied to one’s self<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">How
would God treat you?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">Have
a high regard for yourself<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">The
essence of who you are<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">It is
only because of change that you can grow<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">It is
important that you have lifetime intentions<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">Your
emotional pain is proportional to your attachment to the
past.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">The
loss of anticipated joy<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN
style="COLOR: purple">Supporting another in their grief<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">The
higher realm of the Golden Rule brings change<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">When
too much help becomes detrimentally enabling<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">The
emotional energy is always equivalent to the spiritual growth of the
individual<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="COLOR: purple">The
detrimental extremes create injury to the child<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN
style="COLOR: purple">Social repercussions</SPAN></P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: .5in" class=MsoFooter>TR:<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Daniel Raphael</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>Moderator:<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Vicki Vanderheyden</P>
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<H1 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><FONT size=3>January 26, 2011</FONT></H1>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><I>Dear Father, we humbly ask that you
encircuit us with your love in ways that allow us to receive what we need at
this time, from the wisdom of your Son, Monjoronson.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>May all who read these words find ways
to express your will in their daily lives, and in turn, draw us closer to living
the message of Christ Michael in our service to you and our fellow man.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>May we extend our gratitude to all those
unseen helpers, who with great effort, assist us in this process.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Amen<o:p></o:p></I></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><I> <o:p></o:p></I></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Daniel:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Let us surround ourselves with God’s
Light.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>We invoke the presence of
God with us.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Good morning, this is Monjoronson.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>(Good Morning!)<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I am pleased to be here with you, and
glad to enfold you in this Light of our Father, and appreciate and enjoy that
which we share in common.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You have
asked for this session, and I am here.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>How can I be of assistance to you?</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Well first, is there anything you wish
to speak to us before we begin?</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>There are many things, but we can weave
them in as we go.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Okay.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Today I thought that we would follow
through on some topics related to comments that you made in our last session,
one being your request to further discuss “The Golden Rule,” so if it’s all
right with you, I’d like to begin with that one.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Certainly.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Do you have a specific question, or do
you just ask me to expound on that?</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I have two main questions; let me begin
with this:<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>In our last session,
when we were discussing the inconsistencies in our ability to apply our morality
and ethics to our life situations, both on an individual and on a social level,
you mentioned that because many of us do not have an individual connection with
the Divine, we lack in our understanding of the higher levels of the Golden
Rule.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And so my first question
Monjoronson, is, what do we need to understand about the higher levels of the
Golden Rule?</P>
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<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>The higher levels
of the Golden Rule</FONT></U></H2>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The fundamental element of spiritual
growth, using the Golden Rule, is to use your own personal growth in service to
others, and particularly to yourself, as you serve others.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you
would have them to do unto you,” is a standard rule of social and moral ethics
that was in place long before Jesus appeared on the earth.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It was a revealed standard that came to
the Hebrews, and it came to other cultures as well, though it is not as well
recorded.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>The higher value of this rule is
that you see others and their behaviors as an opportunity of service.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Most of you see the Golden Rule as
something to avoid problems, as minimum service, whereas in the evolved
personality, you see the Golden Rule as an opportunity of immense and infinitely
enlarged service to others.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>“Do
unto others”—that would mean to serve others—does not speak strictly to avoiding
hurting others, but a movement away from that into serving others.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is very similar to the higher value
of forgiveness.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You forgive the
other, not because of them, but because of the higher elevated sense of being
that you assume in forgiveness.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It
is a challenge to you to rise to the higher standard.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>The Golden Rule and this state of
forgiveness are equally linked; you see the other individual as one, your
nemesis, and the antonym, of which is your savior.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>They are your saviors because their
presence, their behavior, allows you an opportunity to grow into a higher state
of being.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is not a state of
condescension, of looking down upon others from an elevated point of view, for
that is simply your ego again, in play.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>The higher motivation of doing unto others as you would have them do unto
you, offers you an opportunity to grow into your higher spiritual self.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You see each instance of injury to you
by others as an opportunity to forgive; it is an opportunity to see that what
they did has hurt your feelings.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>If
they have hurt your feelings, then it is truly not they, who have done so, but
your reaction to what they did.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>So,
you attain the level of maturity where you no longer react to what they are
saying; you instead, act in your highest good and in the highest good of theirs
as well.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B> <SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I did some research, Monjoronson, knowing
that we were going to talk about the Golden Rule, and some say this is a
universal standard, by which all human behavior is to be judged.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Would you agree with that?<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B
style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"> <o:p></o:p></B></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B
style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal">Monjoronson:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes. </P>
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style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"> <o:p></o:p></B></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B
style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal">Vicki:<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></B>Yet I discovered that though every
major religion seems to have it’s own version of the Golden Rule, that there is
quite a bit of variation in their emphasis.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>For instance, the Native American
spirituality states it as: “We are as much alive as we keep the earth
alive.”<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The Unitarian statement of
the Golden Rule is, “We affirm and promote respect for the independent web of
all existence, of which we are a part.”<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Both of those interpretations seem
to emphasize a sense of interconnectedness.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And then, there’s the Islamic approach,
from the Prophet Mohammad that says, “Not one of you truly believes, until you
wish for others, what you wish for yourself,” and that to me, that expresses the
important need for unconditional love.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>And so, I guess I’m asking you if this is why we struggle in our society
to interpret the Golden Rule in ways that serve others.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Is it because of our diversity?</P>
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<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>Why we struggle to
interpret the Golden Rule’s higher values</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>No, it is not because of your diversity;
it is because of your unwillingness to accept that you are part of the huge web
of humanity, that you are “one being,” and that when one being fights against
the whole, it is a sore spot in the body of humanity.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Your statement that it requires
unconditional love to do this, is difficult for you, as unconditional love is a
high level of existence, a high state of being in personality development, which
is supported by behaviors which demonstrate that, such as the application of the
Golden Rule, to treat other people well, as you would want them to treat
you.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>There are many behaviors which
underlie unconditional love.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>Diversity of belief is a statement that refers to all the religious
beliefs, yet there is a desire by individuals to be accepted, to be appreciated,
to be recognized, to be made to feel they are worthy and deserving of being a
part of humanity, and so individuals enact this on their own, under whichever
umbrella of religion that they live.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I’m going to set that aside for a
minute, Monjoronson; I’ll have to think about those comments.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>(Monjoronson:<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Certainly.)<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>How does our lack of connection with the
Divine interfere with our ability to consistently apply these codes, such as the
Golden Rule?</P>
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<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>Meditation allows
guidance from the Divine presence within</FONT></U></H2>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It makes it far more difficult.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>That is why all contemplative religions
suggest to the followers that they meditate. The time of meditation, of no
thought, allows the Divine within each individual to connect with them, and to
reinforce those precepts of behavior of thought, that assists them to be “one”
with the Divine, and to be in service with others.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Without connection to the Divine within,
the presence of the Creator within, it is more difficult for the
individual.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The thoughtfulness of
the individual to meditate also allows them to be receptive to the guidance of
the presence within them.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is a
circuit of sorts, between the individual and the Divine presence within
them.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>They are encircuited, so that
one is reinforced, by the presence of God within them, and they are receptive to
this.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>They see, know and feel that
presence and are receptive to its guidance.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is of tremendous assistance when
people take a time out from their busy-ness in doing things around them, and the
busy-ness in their thinking, to be in that space of openness, where spirit, the
presence, can talk to them during their daily moments.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This is the contemplative way of living,
which assists the Divine to express itself through the Golden Rule and other
rules of living that assist the individuals to grow.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>So, it’s our relationship with God that
allows us to receive insight, and that assists us in feeling compassion for
others, so that we can apply this rule.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>Is that what you are saying?</P>
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<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>The Golden Rule
must be applied to one’s self</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The recognition of the relationship is
the connection that is made by the individual, who then allows time for that to
express in their lives.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>But, it is
furthermost important that the individual apply the Golden Rule to
themselves.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This assists them to
grow even further.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>If they are
unable to forgive themselves, if they are unable to treat themselves as they
would wish others would treat them, then their Golden Rule is hollow; it is not
truly a developed element within them.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>The application of the Golden Rule to others then, is quite hollow; it is
a social expression of obligation of equal treatment, whereas [when] the Golden
Rule is applied to one’s self, it is required that the individual sees himself
truly as a living son of God, that they are worthy of being treated well, of
thinking well of themselves, and of being good to themselves.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>How would God
treat you? </FONT></U></H2>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>We are not talking about
self-indulgence, or self-narcissism, but we are talking about genuine self-love,
to treat one’s self to time off, to be free of having to do things, of even
having to have busy thoughts.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is
important that the individual begin first to apply this within the relationship
as it exists between themselves and God within them.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>How would God treat them, and this is
what they must apply to themselves.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>Then applying it to others becomes secondary; it becomes truly a response
to the God presence within the individual to express itself to others, without
social obligation, or as a social, ethical rule.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>So there’s a reciprocal nature to the
Golden Rule—is that correct?</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Explain, please.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Well, it not only involves being of
service to others, it also involves being of service to yourself, and in doing
so, forms a circle, because you are then in service to God.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Correct?</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>Have a high regard
for yourself</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes, you could say that.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The Golden Rule is the projection of
yourself onto others, and that you see others as yourself.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>That is why I mentioned just a moment
ago that it is important that you have a high self-regard for yourself, that you
treat yourself well.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>If you do not
treat yourself well and see yourself worthy of being deserving of equal
treatment from others, and good treatment at that, then it is hardly possible
for you to be genuine in seeing yourself in others as deserving and worthy of
good treatment.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You see, in the
world of seven billion people, you would have seven billion “others of
yourself.”<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And if you have high
self-regard, you know that God loves you, and that you are an agent of God’s
love on your world, then you would want to be of service and serve others for
your own highest good.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This makes
serving the other seven billion people a real possibility as a projection of
your consciousness of love for the “one” as you are one of seven billion.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes, there is a reciprocal relationship,
but it is in many ways, only between yourself and God first, and then to others
secondly.<SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1">
</SPAN><SPAN
style="mso-tab-count: 1">
</SPAN><SPAN style="COLOR: red"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Thank you for that.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Is there anything else you would like to
comment on, regarding the higher levels of the Golden Rule?</P>
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<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>The essence of who
you are</FONT></U></H2>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>No, I believe we have stated it clearly,
that this is not done for social image, or for the minimum of good relationships
socially, but for the good of yourself and the good of others.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is not a lubricant for the social
organization of your world, but as truly the essence of who you are.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is a demonstration of your inner
self-worthiness.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>When once people
begin to see this in this light, then they will see the Golden Rule in a much
different way.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Thank you.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Previously, you stated that those of us
who are of a spiritual nature, and who wish to have a personal relationship with
God, will experience tremendous change in our life.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And with that change will come some very
disagreeable circumstances and quite a bit of difficulty.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I really think that we struggle
with change.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It seems like it’s
almost inherent within us to struggle against it.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>So I thought maybe we could explore some
questions and conversation about change, so that we can better cope with
it.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Do you have a general statement
that you would like to say about change?<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>And how we approach it in our lives?</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>It is only because
of change that you can grow</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes, certainly.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Change is constant.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is the only constant factor in
progressive, evolutionary, social life, both in societies and within the
individual.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>When you strive to
maintain your life in a stable manner, you are really adhering to the past, and
the past is known; the past offers no opportunities for growth, for development,
for evolution, for higher achievement.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>It is only because of change that you can grow.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The person who is at ease with change,
grows; they must confront each new development with new intelligence, with using
the past as a tool box for how to engage their present state of change, to learn
more from the present.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>It is important
that you have lifetime intentions</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>It is essential for you to live
in this gap of all possibilities, when you see the flux of change in your life,
see it as an opportunity for the great outworking of the universe with
yourself.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>That is why it is
important that you have lifetime intentions.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>What is the intention for your
life?<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And then you hold this
loosely; you do not try to force it into existence; you do not try to hammer it
out into some form and make it happen, but you hold the intention loosely and
allow the universe to assist to arrange the happenstance of that right and
perfect outworking for that intention.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>To do that, you must be loose; you must be able to accept change, and see
it as opportunity, rather than a circumstance of adversity or havoc.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>There are those in the economic
markets of the world who make tremendous money from the tragedies in the
financial market, simply because they see this as opportunity to reap a reward
where there are opportunities.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>Where some<SPAN style="COLOR: red"> </SPAN>see these as tragedies, others
see these as opportunities to expand the growth of their own wealth.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This is very similar to life as a
whole:<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>When there is change, you
see opportunity.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The eras of
stability simply tell you that this is working; this is working now; be prepared
to change in the future, when the circumstances rearrange the blocks of your
life, so that there is a different structure to it. </P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Okay, thank you.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I have found in my life that when I
approach it as an opportunity, it’s better.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>But I have to say that when change is of
a major proportion, it often brings a tremendous sense of loss and grief.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And at that time, then you struggle with
the loss; you struggle with the emotional pain….</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><U><SPAN
style="COLOR: purple">Your emotional pain is proportional to your attachment to
the past</SPAN></U>.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><U><SPAN
style="COLOR: purple"> <o:p></o:p></SPAN></U></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Your emotional pain is proportional to
your attachment to the past.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>If you
are speaking about the passage of your husband into the afterlife, that is of a
very dear and personal nature.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>That
requires you to leap into a new state of existence of awareness, that this is
not all there is in life, that there is more and that these possibilities exist
for yourself, for your children and for your relatives, neighbors and
friends.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>That is a fact of your
existence.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The un-timeliness of it
takes you unawares and unprepared, and it is a challenge then for you, with a
broken heart, to say, “Now what can I make of this for myself?<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>What can I learn of this to help me
bridge this loss into a new existence, a new awareness?”<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>Surely, this is one of the most
challenging factors of change in your life, one that you did not ask for and
were unprepared for.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yet, one would
not want to live with that uncertainty of loss on a moment-to-moment basis in
your life, because that too would keep you so unsteady as to become ungrounded
and non-functional in your personal and social life.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Your loss is tremendous, and all who are
aware of it acknowledge that, and many others have experienced the same thing
and even now in these moments, are experiencing that as well.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>How does one move on to reconstruct
their life, without their life partner?<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>This is a challenge that many have to engage, and therefore, you must
rely upon the God presence within you, that undying, that unfathomable presence
of tremendous largess of love that pours out upon you, and this must be your
anchor.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoBodyText2><FONT
color=#ff0000> <o:p></o:p></FONT></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Thank you for that, Monjoronson.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It has been a challenge. I also
reflect on something you said in the last session, that when we confront
difficulties they are hard, but at the same time, we can have, if we pursue
it—this wonderful relationship with the Divine, and that, I can attest to.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>That, I believe, has been what’s held me
steady and moved me along.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I still
struggle with one part of it —one major part of it—and that is that though I
seem to plod along and keep myself moving forward, I don’t experience joy.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Can you speak to that?<SPAN
style="mso-tab-count: 1"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes, that is due to the loss of part of
your self-identity and who you are, without this other person.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is important that young ones, early
in life, begin to realize that the ultimate relationship is one with themselves
and one with God, and that this is truly ‘one’ relationship.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And that this is the primary belief of
all their existence, and that the engagement, the sharing of a life with another
is an added benefit, and you see this as long-term or temporary.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You see that as an addition to your
life, something that provides more than there was before.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>When you have the long-term
relationship, where your joy and satisfaction of life is dependent upon the
participation of another, then when that loss occurs, then your joy is
gone.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>The loss of
anticipated joy</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>We know that it is very difficult
for humans to understand this on-going joy of life and living, even in the
absence of loved ones.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is
particularly, in the case of a long-term relationship, or in the loss of a
child, that there is more than loss of the individual that has gone across into
the afterlife.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>There is also the
mourning for the awareness of loss of the joy and happiness that you were
anticipating into the future.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You
have made yourself more dependent upon their existence yet for your continued
joy.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This is normal to have this
absence; you are moving through these stages of loss, and so the joy is one of
the last stages that you will come to discover, that even though you have
suffered this loss you know this tragedy so well, that you nonetheless give
thanks and appreciation for their presence in your life during the years that
you had that.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And, so, you reflect
upon that joy and you hold that memory of joy in your mind, and you revel in the
fact that you have the opportunity to experience that in relationship with
others, again.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>The joy of life comes from the
wholeness of life, knowing that there is an abundance far past the sum of the
parts, that joy is truly the exponential return from those simple summations of
numbers, of parts.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You begin to
appreciate that which is from the Divine within you, that you see this in the
world around you, and so you begin to see again, the world and all around you in
the equation of the Golden Rule, and so it returns to you many times over as you
find joy in other things that are around you.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Do not anticipate this to occur
overnight, or within a few weeks, or even months; for some it takes some time,
but it requires an extension of striving to appreciate joy in that which you see
around you, the joy of love that comes to you from the Divine within you, every
moment of every day.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Thank you, Monjoronson.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I can see the relationship to the Golden
Rule, because once you replace that empty place in your life with service to
others that becomes an avenue for some new joy.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It’s hard, though, for many people that
experience a loss.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I think it’s
hard for those that are around someone that is experiencing that loss.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It’s been my experience in this society
that people don’t know how to react to one who is grieving.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And so often, they don’t; they don’t
realize that a grieving person is still capable of service and thrives on being
able to help others, rather than only being the one that’s being helped. <SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Would you agree with that?</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>Supporting another
in their grief</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>There are opportunities for others to
extend themselves, though they are reticent to do so, as grieving sometimes is a
very private affair, and that there can be hostile reactions by those who are
grieving, as to reject the gestures of others to be supportive.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Nonetheless, it is always helpful for
one who is on the outside of grief to say, “How may I support you during your
grief and grieving?<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>How may I be of
assistance to you, to bring you joy where you have none now?”<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And sometimes, that is only sitting at a
table, saying nothing, as you drink your tea, or sip your coffee, and simply
know that there is another there with you, supporting you and sharing in those
moments, though they cannot share in the grief in the inside of your emotional
realm.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>One must see themselves in
the face of others.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>This is again, a reflection of
the Golden Rule.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The Golden Rule is
not for anticipated or expected return from others, but simply as an extension
of yourself to fulfill yourself.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>When the Golden Rule is done selfishly, then it has no purpose, other
than an anticipated return, and is hollow and superficial.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>But when one engages the Golden Rule,
even by sitting silently with a friend, who is in grief, you are there with no
return anticipated, but giving of yourself to another who has a feeling of loss,
and so you help them feel more complete.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>By saying nothing, by not extending yourself, you leave the person in
grief, and they have a social grief as well, because they feel like they are
cast out or exiled from their social group because of their loss.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is doubly hurtful when this occurs,
and this is something that must be seen in terms of the Golden Rule by those who
are on the outside of grief, as an opportunity to extend themselves in loving
service.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Loving presence is
sometimes all that is needed.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I can relate to that.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Many times, that’s all that was
needed.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>The higher realm
of the Golden Rule brings change</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Through our discussion, I am wishing
that you and those who read this understand that the Golden Rule has far, far,
far more to do than the elimination of offensive behavior.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Every interaction is an opportunity to
grow in service to yourself, by being more accepting of others and extending
yourself into their situation, empathically, so that you can be of grateful
service to them, where they are grateful for your presence, and you are grateful
for the opportunity to be of service.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>This truly is the root of tremendous spiritual growth in a social
environment, on a world as yours.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>This is a higher value; this is a higher realm of the Golden Rule; this
is where your world becomes changed by the work of individuals.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This is how the consciousness of a race
of people is changed.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You’re painting a landscape for us,
Monjoronson, where we see how that law applies through our whole life, in every
aspect of our life, and I appreciate it.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Roxie:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Vicki, I would like to address
Monjoronson with a question on this topic.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Oh, that would be wonderful, Roxie.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Roxie:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Monjoronson, I find it difficult in
knowing at what point serving others becomes enabling of their behavior, where
they lack the ability to help themselves, or even the desire to help
themselves.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Can you offer me any
guidance in that area?</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>When too much help
becomes detrimentally enabling</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Most certainly!<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And your question is well taken, and it
is what you might call an “estranged variation” of the Golden Rule (laughing)
taken to the extreme.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Your question
has many facets of answers in response to it.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The first involves the emotional return
that one gets from serving others.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>In enabling others you become responsible for how other people feel, for
their satisfaction, for their lives as they exist, for helping them mature, for
striving to help keep the equations stable, rather than allowing their situation
to destabilize as an opportunity for growth.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Enablers strive to have the others be at
peace, and oftentimes—and most of the time—this is contrary to the growth of
others.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You then become responsible
for the emotional well-being of others, and I mention ‘well-being’ in a very
narrow, narrow sense, in that they are no longer throwing tantrums or are in
difficulty emotionally with the situation.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>The emotional
energy is always equivalent to the spiritual growth of the
individual</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>This is the complete extreme
opposite of the Golden Rule, where you become responsible for another person’s
emotional peace and this suffocates their capacity to grow emotionally and
spiritually.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Remember, dear one,
that the emotional energy is always equivalent to the spiritual growth of the
individual.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>When others are
prevented from experiencing emotional difficulties and growing through them,
then they cannot grow spiritually either.</P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>This barely scratches the surface
on enabling behavior.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Your
literature has much to say about it, as well as some social philosophers, who
are not spiritually motivated.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The
question that must be asked is, “ Am I doing this for my own peace of mind, or
for others?”<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>If by doing for others
you suffocate them emotionally and you are able to stay at peace yourself, then
you are not working for the highest good for them, or for yourself.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You are holding yourself back; you are
not responsible for the emotional happiness of others.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B> <o:p></o:p></B></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>The enabling relationship does
not begin in adulthood; it begins in childhood.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The parent is responsible for the care
and nurturance of the infant from birth until into childhood.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The role of the parent is not always to
make the child happy, but to teach a child how to grow through these emotional,
traumatic circumstances, so that they can learn how to achieve their own
happiness and joy.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This is most
difficult when the parent herself or himself, does not have these tools
either.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is something that they
must learn from parenting classes, from parenting coaches, and from an
educational environment.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>It is also helped by the peace
one gets from being in meditation, from being at peace within themselves, to
have the maturity to know that they do not have enough knowledge to assist the
child in these emotionally difficult situations.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>They pray about that and they seek
spiritual guidance, but as well, they seek the assistance of family counselors,
of child psychologists and by reading books of childrearing to assist them to
help their child work through these difficult emotional situations.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal> <o:p></o:p></P>
<H2 style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><U><FONT color=#800080 size=3>The detrimental
extremes create injury to the child</FONT></U></H2>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN
style="COLOR: purple"><U> <o:p></o:p></U></SPAN></P>
<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>On one hand, parents will enable
the child to become totally emotionally dependent upon the parent, into
adulthood.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The other extreme is the
extreme of neglect, where the child is in emotional pain and the parent does
nothing, and simply walks away.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>This also creates a tremendous injury in the child, both the child that
is neglected and unsupported during these times, is as injured as the individual
who is made to become totally emotionally dependant upon the adult parent for
their emotional balance.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>These are
dysfunctional and non-functional situations and extremes, and the middle ground
is most helped when the individual adult is well prepared, well equipped to be
in an emotional relationship with themselves, and help themselves through these
difficult situations, and therefore helps their child through the same
process.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>When you have emotionally
immature adults raising infants, you cannot expect to have much different
results than what you see in the emotionally immature adult parent.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It requires the individual to have the
self-awareness that they do not have information, knowledge, or skills enough to
raise this child sufficiently well to become emotionally independent, and
therefore seek assistance.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This is
where the God-conscious person has an advantage, in that they pray to God, to
their angels and teachers to find resources to assist them in the parenting
roles that they have, and be open and receptive to those resources as they come
to them.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>There must also as well be
assertiveness on the part of the parent to seek out information to assist them
in childrearing through these most difficult situations.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>Parenthood is not a new
invention, but is well recorded and documented within the last three hundred
years, and that most contemporary information is well founded and well grounded
and has good advice for the parent, and it is incumbent upon the parent to seek
this information, both for the child growth and development and for their own
parental peace of mind.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>So, in the situation of one who is
determining whether they’re enabling, or are helping in the right way, it
involves quite a bit of thought on the part of the helping party.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It involves an ability to help the
person requiring the support to see where they need to go for their help, to
understand where they are at.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><U><SPAN
style="COLOR: purple">Social repercussions<o:p></o:p></SPAN></U></P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It is most difficult; it is exacerbated
socially and personally, when individuals—the adult—is unaware that they are
enabling.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>They just find themselves
in this traumatic, circular, emotional merry-go-round that they cannot get
off.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>It requires self-awareness; it
requires an appraisal of self, knowing that they are in a situation that they
don’t know how to control, or to manage.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>When a society is in a situation as that, then you have a spiraling
downward population.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>When there is
unawareness on the part of adults, then you will see a spiraling downward of
your social, societal, moral and ethical levels, which will continue
indefinitely, unless there is a turn-around within that society.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>Your nation, your world is in a
situation where there is a rising number of individuals who are spiraling
upward, for the great benefit of themselves, their neighbors and their
children.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Their self-awareness [is]
that they are inadequate to understand or to manage the situation for the
benefit of themselves or others, and they seek assistance.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You are talking about the fundamentals
of a sustainable society, and a sustainable society begins before birth, as we
have said, it begins even before the moment of conception, becomes a part of the
thinking of the parents-to-be, the procreative couple, that they will be
self-conscious, self-aware as individuals, and as parents, and teach this to
their children.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This is how a
society spirals upward, as it increases its knowledge of itself and its
spiritual development and emotional development, which extends itself into the
societal levels, that [it] becomes more mature.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>The question you raised on
enabling goes to the heart for the life and death of a society, dear one.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I am glad you have asked this
question.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Roxie:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes, I had that in mind when I asked the
question, because this difficulty I see in knowing at what point to help others,
and at what point to hold back from enabling them is not just a family
situation, but a societal one.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>And
I see that people can get trapped into an attitude of entitlement for someone
else to take care of them, if they don’t have the resources to take care of
themselves.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Yes, it is a sense of entitlement, but
also of narcissism, where everyone else is responsible for your well-being, your
happiness, and this is a very untenable situation, and socially will lead to the
demise of a society and to a family.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">
</SPAN>It is the antithesis of the higher realms of the Golden Rule.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal>Dear ones, I feel we have expired
the extent of what we can do in this session, unless you have further questions,
I would like to retire.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Thank you, Monjoronson, for this session
today.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>I think that I, as well as
some of our audience, will need to read this over a few times, and digest a lot
of what you’ve said.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Thank you for
your presence today.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>MONJORONSON:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>You are most welcome.<SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Good day.</P>
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<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B>Vicki:</B><SPAN
style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Good day. </P>
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